May the Best Woman Win

by Youngchin

So one of the whole things I don’t get about weddings is how we’re all still pretending that guys only have guy friends and women only hang with chicks. When was the last time that was true, the Sixties? Oh, don’t ask – Sixties people don’t know if it was true or not. They were all high.

Anyway, my point is that I have girl friends and guy friends and The Hunk has girl friends and guy friends and he’s got a sister and why are we cutting them out of this whole thing?

I mean, yeah, Sis-of-Hunk is cool and all, and I’d be happy to have her stand by me. We’re friends. But we’re not best friends. And she and The Hunk kind of are. They’re really tight, and I like that. Especially since I found out how much she had to do with him learning how to treat women.

So Hunk was kind of worrying about who to choose as his best man and I was kind of worrying over whether his sis really wanted the job of being my bridesmaid when suddenly it all got really easy. So she’s going to be his best woman, and then that opened the door to us just having attendants, a mix of guys and girls.

It’s fun and it makes sense to us. And it saves me from calling my friends “maids” when we all know darn well they aren’t. The original point of having same-sex bridesmaids and groomsmen was so they could step in if bride or groom got killed before the wedding.
And the reason they all dressed alike was to confuse evil spirits and make it harder for them to find the happy couple. (See? It’s a bigger job than you thought.)

Call us madcap, but we don’t think either evil spirits or Visigoths are planning on attacking our wedding. OK, there might be some Goths, but not the kind with swords.

Awesome though we are, it turns out we’re not that original. Lots of brides and grooms are done with the whole gender segregation thing. It’s cool. Mixing it up also means you don’t have to worry so much about everybody matching, since you’re already breaking up the rows of clones. (If you’re looking for ideas on non-matching bridesmaids, check out our article over [[here]].)

And as long as you’re careful, it works. Just make sure the odd man or woman out doesn’t feel excluded. But also don’t make a guy sit through a princess-themed shower or a woman sit through a particularly grody bachelor party. Unless she likes that sort of thing. Just ask.

It may take a little extra thinking, but making a new tradition of your own always does. As long as you’re finding a way to make sure your favorite people in the world are up there with you, it’s gotta work out.

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