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Bride Chic: Dresses For Dancing!

Nov 20th 2009 9:16am | by Azure
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Fun with your groom at the wedding reception- Perfect dress for dancing!

Photo: David Fielden

Will you and your groom perchance be showing off a little Hip-hop at your reception? A bit of Foxtrot maybe? Nothing spells romance more than two lovers ballroom dancing. And because this is going to be your first dance as a couple, a symbolic act you perform for your guests to evoke oneness, you'll want to get it right. Your dance can be as timeless as something out of an Astaire and Rogers flick, or as hot and wild as the numbers in Mambo Kings. Whatever dance you do choose, remember your dress could act as the perfect means of expression in which to perform it (I'm not forgetting the groom here... you're both supposed to become one unit when you dance...).

Dressing the part and getting in simpatico with your chosen dance isn't all that difficult. Just know every dance was invented and came out of the human body to express a mood, so naturally each has its own temperament. Thus dance crazes (like fashion) sometimes come and go; others take hold and evolve into ageless classics like the Tango, the Quickstep and Rumba.

FOXTROT
Foxtrot was considered the American standard of the 1940s-50s when Sinatra tunes reigned big. Die hard ballroom dance addicts claim the Foxtrot is still the numero uno social dance. I'd call it a vintage classic; times have changed since man circled the moon. If you love the easy listening style of Frank Sinatra, Peggy Lee and most any Rat-Packer, consider this dance yours.

Popular Foxtrot Tunes- Love and Marriage by Frank Sinatra ; Summer Wind by Frank Sinatra; Is That All There Is, by Peggy Lee.

TANGO
Drama. Passion. Jealousy. Can you really do a decent Tango without all these emotions? Maybe. Realize though, the Tango was born in Argentina amidst gauchos and evolved by streetwise South Americans who danced it in humble bars and cafes. Around 1913-14 the craze caught on in Europe once it was taken to Paris and ... 'polished up'. Ahem, okay. So Argentine Tango is still a bit provincial and different from the 'polished up' Anglicized Tango. Tango aficionados are sticklers on what constitutes Argentine from International Tango. Still, I say mix them up. Argentine Tango is worth checking out, for that great Buenos Aries root with whining base violins and sweeping accordion sounds. Regular Tango in 2/4 time, when orchestrated well, can be as brilliant as Al Pacino in Scent of a Woman; orchestrated ho-hum and you get Bobby and Cissy on Lawrence Welk Show reruns.

WALTZ
Waltzing caught on big time around 1845 when Johann Strauss started composing fast, lively and—considered for their time—daring tunes. Today we know the waltz as something refined and when done right, elegant. At its height we know it as Viennese, usually with white-tie and tails for men, for women: a full and flowing gown with sweeping skirts like the one pictured here. Viennese waltzing is kind of like riding the tilt-a-whirl at the carnival. To look really good doing it you may have to work hard on it. So if you're not a regular on Ballroom Dance Challenge get thee and your fiancee to a place like Arthur Murray.

Luckily not all waltzes are fast. The American or standard waltz is easy to listen and dance to. Elvis Presley's, Are You Lonesome Tonight? is an easy listening waltz. So is, Could I Have This Dance? By Anne Murray. If you like modern melodies in waltz time (country western is a great example) try some like these.

SWING
Drum Bogie. Sing, Sing, Sing. Tutti-Frutti. You know these tunes when you hear them because they've become such classics. Swing is a fast, lively dance—the kind you see in wartime newsreels when men in uniform toss partners up in the air, only to catch and slide her through open legs. Originally evolved from ragtime, before it was Swing it was the Lindy or Lindy Hop (after Lindberg's hop over the Atlantic) It finally found its name in the era of swing time jazz and Benny Goodman. If you're up for this one it's worth a few lessons at Arthur Murray for sure.

Jive
The more modern version of Swing. Not really all that much different. International and American Ballroom has put Jive in the Latin standard. I'd call Jive the contemporary modern dance of the 21st century.

Popular Swing Tunes- Rock Around the Clock by Bill Haley and the Comets; Tutti Fruitti by Little Richard; I Get Around by The Beach Boys

SALSA
Salsa is a fusion of dance that originated in the Caribbean. When you think Salsa, think of a mix of Mambo, Guaguanco, Rumba and other Latin dances that involve Cuban motion. I call Salsa the Hispanic version of Swing though you'll find some African influences in the music and dance as well. Salsa is a great partner dance despite the fact there are solo steps and sometimes Salsa is danced like line or contra dances with changes of partner. Though a great improv dance, Salsa is perfect for exhibition dancing.

Some of these tunes are perfect for Salsa: Ran Kan Kanonte by Tito Puente; Vamonos Pal M by Eddie Palmieri; Tanga by Mario Bauza

HIP-HOP
Pictured in the title photo, Hip-Hop is a relatively new addition to the dance standard. It evolved from funk and break dancing in the streets circa the 1970s-1990s. Still evolving, Hip-Hop is known for its improv nature. When we think Hip-Hop, it is usually in the way of a group or solo exhibition. I think though, this dance can be developed into an energetic and sexy dance for a couple.

Some of my favorite tunes for Hip-Hop, Lean on Me by Big Daddy Kane; Do Me Right by Salt and Pepa; My Melody by Eric B. Rankim

What is it about Chicago and the Food Network? First, the Second City’s favorite wedding caterers The Hearty Boys won the first season of the Food Network’s hit series “The Next Food Network Star,” leading to their own series, cookbooks, and a new restaurant.

collection of white wedding cakes featuring three tiered white cake with brown branches and pink flowers

Photo: Cake Girls

More recently the Cake Girls of Roscoe Village competed in the network’s Food Network Challenge Series and now have their own show on WE. Located nearby, the somewhat punkier and totally organic Bleeding Heart Bakery. As far as we know, they haven’t been on the Food Network yet, but there’s always tomorrow!

When it comes to wedding vendors, it’s clear Chicago really is “The City That Works!”

The Spring 2010 Pure by Justin Alexander collection is perfect for our brides planning a beach or destination wedding. The wedding dresses in this line are simple and understated. But what I love is that many of the dresses have an unexpected, detailed back!

Isn't the jeweled racer back on the dress above fabulous? And the Grecian-inspired silhouette and t-back on the dress in the third photo? Pair one of these with some sassy gladiator sandals and sexy tousled hair (try Frederic Fekkai's Marine Summer Hair collection), and you'll be the perfect oceanside bride!

Big stars like Eva Longoria, Alicia Keys, Katy Perry and Carrie Underwood have donned Jenny Packham designs. Just this past September, My Name Is Earl star Jaime Pressly walked down the aisle in a Jenny Packham wedding dress.

Seeing Packham's gorgeous Spring 2010 wedding dress collection up close and personal (while in NYC) got me to thinking... I want to walk down the aisle in a Jenny Packham creation! These dresses are just so unique, and definitely have that old Hollywood, vintage-inspired thing going on.

I love the deep plunging neckline covered with sheer netting in the first dress! And the beading detail is heavenly! The Spring 2010 trend of incorporating hints of black into cream or ivory wedding dresses had a strong presence in Packham's collection... and I adore it!

Every few weeks we like to do a little exchange program with our friends over at The Plunge. They send us one of the questions a groom has sent them, and we send them a question from one of our savvy brides. We publish both answers and you can get a male and female perspective.

solitaire engagement ring with channel set diamonds surrounding and a wedding band

Photo: Coast Diamond

This week, we tried something a little different. We both answered the same question at the same time.

Here's the rather lengthy question:
It all started when she asked me “what if I don’t like the ring you proposed with? Would you be offended if I don’t like it?” The answer was tricky but I said “Yes, I would be offended on the grounds of you missing the point that it is not about the ring, it is about me offering my life to you.” Call me old fashion but that is how I feel.
However, I took her window shopping for the ring. The idea behind it was that at least she would get what she wants (size, cut, color, setting, etc) even if I had to sacrifice the surprise. It was explained to her prior to the excursion that we were doing our homework and that we were not going to buy a ring that night. The problem is that she fell in love with a $12,000 dollar setting, capable of holding a 2.5 carat rock. The ring (diamond included) carried a price tag of $40,000; far more than 3 months of salary by a long margin.

The next day she went to work and tracked down the designer of the monster setting online. She then e-mailed me the results of “the hunt” because she “thought it might be useful to have these pictures in my archives.” I was furious. She knows the price of the setting and she does not care if the thing is by itself more than two months salary, half the price of a car, 5 years of food, 7 years of gas, 9 mortgage payments and an infinite amount of dog food.

I know I sound like a cheapskate, but I am ready to invest up to $18,000 on the ring (hardly a drop in the bucket), but now I am thinking that maybe, just maybe, I am being taken advantage of. She is certainly not in it for the money, but sometimes she makes me feel like she likes the flash more than the idea of being with me for life.

My question is: Am I in the wrong to think that $12,000 for a setting is crazy and that 40 grand for a ring is just insane? Furthermore, since she knows the price of the setting and obviously has check estimates for the diamond, why does she think that such an inconsiderate number is OK?
Lastly, if it is all about love, what is so wrong with a ring pop?

Here's where you go if you want to know what the Wedding Maven has to say about this expensive ring question.

Here's where you go if you're curious about how guys see this ring buying issue.

If you have a question for the Wedding Maven you can write weddingmaven@onewed.com

Ask the Experts is your chance to get your wedding questions answered by a panel of wedding professionals.

If you have a question about weddings write our panel at asktheexperts@onewed.com

This week's question:

Dear Ask the Experts,
My fiancé and I are trying to decide on our bridal party. Is there an ideal number for bridesmaids and groomsmen? Can groomsmen and ushers be the same people, or should they be separate? What are some things we should think about when choosing people for these roles?

Thanks
Bride with Friends

Read the answers from our panel of wedding experts.

Featured Wedding: Josh and Angela

Nov 19th 2009 8:19am | by Azure
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Featured Wedding by Dez Newcomb Photography

Josh and Angela's outdoor wedding took place in Post Falls, ID on the Spokane River. The bride and groom prepared just about everything themselves, with help from friends. They rented a very large house for the week, which made it easy for them to hang out with their friends and family.

I loved working with Angela and Josh because they were not the typical "Bridezilla" couple. They were so in love and had the attitude..."whatever, as long as we are together". Yet, the wedding didn't look that way, it wasn't sloppy or thrown together, it was very elegant. My favorite time was after the wedding when it was just me and them. If you are laid back and just let the wedding happen, you are gonna have such a wonderful day!

Wedding Dress: Watters & Watters

A few weeks ago we told you about an upcoming non-Halloween Halloween wedding.

Carmen and Brad got married on October 31 at the Barn at Valhalla in Chapel Hill, North Carolina.

As promised, their photographer, Kate of This Little Light Photography has shared some pictures of the happy day with us.

Get excited, ladies! We've got a new guest blogger that will be joining The Man Registry on Hump Day!

Tracy DiNunzio is a popular expert on green weddings and eco-friendly lifestyles. She's also the founder of RecycledBride.com, a free marketplace where eco-savvy brides buy and sell wedding dresses, accessories, decorations and more. Tracy became interested in reducing wedding waste while planning her own nuptials in 2007, and has been dedicated to helping other couples plan green weddings ever since. You can follow Tracy on Twitter (@RecycledBride) for daily green bride tips!

And now, without further ado, Tracy's tips for how to create an eco-chic wedding!

Want to reduce your wedding's environmental impact without sacrificing luxury and style? Check out these 5 fabulous ideas to make your big day a little greener.

1. Create inspired arrangements of cacti and succulents instead of using cut flowers.
80% of cut flowers are imported all the way from South America, where they're grown with harmful pesticides. Cacti and succulent arrangements are a unique, stylish, and eco-friendly alternative. If you're DIY-inclined, you can create your own succulent centerpieces weeks before the wedding. Then replant them in your garden, where they'll take root and grow alongside the marriage. Awwwww!

2. Have a super-sweet hometown wedding.
The number one cause of gargantuan carbon footprints for weddings? Travel! A typical destination wedding uses 50 tons of carbon dioxide (eek!). Marrying near where most of your guests live will help cut down on their travel. And you can reduce your wedding's impact even further by using the tools at CarbonFund.org.

3. Buy a recycled wedding dress, gently used bridesmaids dresses, or preowned bridal shoes.
Smart brides who refuse to sacrifice style and luxury are finding gently used designer wedding dresses for half the price on sites like RecycledBride.com. Wedding recycling doesn't just save you money- it also reduces your environmental impact, because you avoid the eco-tolls incurred by the manufacture and transport of new items. My fave bridal recycling story: Kate from TheGreenBrideGuide.com bought these fabulous Vera Wang shoes on Ebay for just $50- then sold them for exactly $50 after the wedding!

4. Serve local, organic, sustainable food...yum!
Organic/sustainable food isn't just good for the Earth- it actually tastes better too! Treat your guests to real foods that are healthy, pesticide-free and locally grown. Get creative if you can't find an organic caterer. We know one bride who convinced four different vendors from her local farmer's market to cater her wedding. If you can't go totally organic, try to ensure that foods are sourced locally, limit the number of meat items on your menu, and choose sustainably farmed fish and seafood.

5. Choose a vintage engagement ring and post-consumer gold wedding bands.
There is already enough gold in the world to satisfy the demands of the jewelry industry for the next 50 years. Meanwhile, both gold and diamond mining (even of "conflict-free" diamonds) continue to poison the environment with waste and toxic chemicals. The "elegant solution" is to choose a vintage engagement ring, which are often priced more reasonably than the new rings and come in a dazzling array of styles. For wedding bands, visit GreenKarat.com for stylish rings made from post-consumer gold.

A great way to save money and personalize your wedding reception or rehearsal dinner is to take care of the drinks that will be served at the event. Although some venues won’t allow you to bring your own liquor, most will at least let you have some say in what will be served. Other venues will leave the bar entirely up to you to either cater or set up yourself.

These bridesmaids in pink bridesmaids dresses with criss cross backs enjoy a variety of drinks at a wedding.

The first thing to remember is that a wedding reception is much different than a bar party. Something to consider is the size of your guest list and the different types of guests you’ll be hosting. You’ll want to make sure you have something for everyone without blowing your budget.

Here are some helpful tips to get you started:
• First determine if alcohol is appropriate for the rehearsal dinner and wedding reception. Some families don’t drink and prefer not to have alcohol served. Also check with the venue to see what rules it may have, such as allowing only beer and wine, beer/wine and liquor, whether you can provide the alcohol, if there’s a corking fee for wine, etc. Once you have green lights from both families and the venue, it’s time to get down to business.
• Next, talk to your fiancée to find out who will be paying for the alcohol — the bride’s family, the groom’s family, the bride and groom, or maybe you’ll be offering a cash bar. This will help you set a budget for alcohol. First determine how many guests there will be, figure three drinks per person and estimate the average price per drink. Then set your budget and stick to it. Another popular option is to provide drinks until a certain time in the evening where the bar switches to a cash bar.
• If your venue will be providing the alcohol, check to see what type of packages it offers — gold (well drinks and basic beer), silver (premium beer, liquor and wine options), platinum (top shelf alcohol, wine and local brews).

If you’ll have a direct say in planning the bar at your reception, here are a few additional considerations. Beer and wine are probably the easiest choices to offer. A good wine list usually consists of a common white wine such as a chardonnay or pinot grigio, which most people are familiar with and enjoy. For red wines, a cabernet sauvignon or a merlot are good options. Another option is a white zinfandel, which complements a wide variety of food. For beer, decide if you’ll be serving beer on tap or by the bottle. If you’ll be having a keg or two, a light beer is a great cost-effective option. You could also consider offering a good local beer or a smaller keg of premium beer or microbrew.

Liquor can be a bit trickier with so many options available. A good rule of thumb is to choose more popular liquors such as vodka, bourbon, rum or gin. If you have a favorite drink, such as a martini, it’s nice to include it as an option for you to enjoy along with your guests.

Common drinks to consider offering:
• Bourbon and cola
• Rum and cola
• Martini (vodka or gin)
• Manhattan
• Margarita
• Gin or vodka tonic
• Tom Collins
• Long Island Iced Tea

It’s also wise to decide ahead of time if you’ll allow shots, which can easily get expensive and may even lead to some guests getting a little crazier than you might want. Remember, guests at the reception often range from frat brothers to your grandmother.

The Man Registry Recommendation: Because the bar is often a major part of your wedding reception, it’s helpful to make it as diversified as possible. While it’s tough (not to mention very expensive) to have every drink possible, you can please almost everyone by putting a little thought into it beforehand. Offering some well known names in liquor along with good beer and wine choices will help you create a night to remember.