Bubbly Bride: Bridal Showers, How Much Is too Much?

Posted by Azure on April 20th, 2010
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This bride is certainly getting her share of gifts at her semi-formal bridal shower.

How many bridal showers, bachelorette parties, personal showers, couples' showers and bachelor outings are enough? It is very easy when you have a large group of friends and family to experience numerous wedding events leading up to your big day. While it is exciting for you, it can become a financial and time burden for your friends. Everyone is offering to host a different event, and who are you to turn down great food and gifts in honor of you? But the question is how much is too much?

Your bridesmaids, your closest crew, want to attend every event and celebrate with you in your new stage of life. For them to come to two showers, one bachelorette party, and one couple shower per wedding with an average of $25-$30 per gift, they can easily spend over $100 on pre-wedding events alone. This is not including the bridesmaid dress, travel expenses, wedding gift and extras along the way. Being a part of the bridal party can quickly add up to an expensive year.

As a bride, do you let your bridesmaids know they are not expected to bring gifts to every event or is this something that is not discussed? I have heard bridesmaids talk amongst themselves about expenses but no one will approach the bride. I understand not wanting to rain on the bride's parade, but is there a point where the gifts are not being given with a loving heart, and are given with a bitter resentment of the cost?

If you have a big family, a large circle of friends, or several different circles of friends, it can be hard to avoid numerous events, but it is O.K. to just say "no" when someone offers to host a shower for you. It's also possible to have a "no gift' shower," where everyone is asked to attend but not bring a gift. The purpose is to celebrate along with you, not to bring their fifth gift.

Brides, do you consider the number of events that you are asking your friends/family to attend or is it easy to get caught up in the excitement and not notice? Have you ever said no to a shower or pre-wedding event which a family member offered to host?

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