The Man Registry: Groom’s Guide to Selecting Wedding Party Members

Posted by Azure on February 26th, 2009
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The Man Registry: Groom’s Guide to Selecting Wedding Party Members

Selecting members of your wedding party can be a very overwhelming task. The more people you know, the harder it becomes. Obviously, you want to get these choices right and you want to convey how thankful you are to the lucky few that you choose. Asking someone to stand next to you on your wedding day is an honor that is hard to equal. Ideally, you want to make your decisions nine to 10 months before the wedding. The first thing you want to consider along with your fiancé is the size of your wedding party. Now, as they say, size doesn’t always matter – oftentimes couples choose to limit the wedding party to just immediate family. However, many choose to believe that size does matter – and they go bananas with a 30 person wedding party. Chances are that you’ll fall somewhere in the middle.

Here’s a quick guide that should help you answer that big question, “Who do I ask?”


Without question, if you have a brother, asking him to be a part of the wedding party is a given. It’s often expected that your brother will serve as Best Man. If you have more than one brother, it’s also very common to have two or more Best Men. YOUR FIANCE’S BROTHERS

Including your fiancé’s brothers in the wedding party is also a very popular choice, and one that will mean a lot to your future wife. You’ll be joining their family on your wedding day, and asking them to be groomsmen is a great way to welcome them into yours. FRIENDS

The tough decisions start when it comes to choosing which friends to ask. It’s usually wisest to start with any life-long friends you’ve had. You can also think about close friends from high school and college. A very popular groomsman choice is the college roommate.

Remember, if you reach your maximum number of groomsmen, you can also add ushers. The number of ushers typically ranges from two to four — a ratio of one usher to every 50 guests is a good rule of thumb. But if you want to keep your wedding party small, it’s perfectly acceptable to ask your groomsmen to also usher in guests. FAMILY

Nephews and cousins are also popular choices to add to your wedding party. If you have a large number of young family relatives, there is always the option of having a junior groomsman or junior usher. Other extended family members are also commonly asked to be readers, greeters or ring bearers. Recommendation: Your brothers and fiancé’s brothers really should be included. If you want to score major points with the guests, include a younger boy in the family as a junior usher.
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