If you are a past bride you will probably agree that amidst all of the planning and excitement of a wedding there is a constant reminder of loved ones that have passed, and are unable to be there with you on your wedding day. While some believe that bringing in memories of the past put a dark cloud over the day, I believe that it should be treated as a celebration of those that have been with you every step of the way.
Instead of simply "In Memory of"... why not "Celebrating the memory of...". Embrace the great memories you have with that grandparent, friend or parent and let your guests at the wedding know the positive impact they made on your life.
Traditionally, brides and grooms will light a candle on a table at the wedding or reception along with a picture of the loved one they are missing. An idea to add to these tables are pictures, awards or scrapbooks that feature their lives and their personalities. Add their favorite scripture verse or advice they have given you to the program for your guests to read while they wait for you to walk down the aisle.
Another more personal way to embrace those you have lost is taking a moment of silence during the wedding, and having the pastor or someone important in your life say a few words or a prayer in their memory.
- Choose a song that they loved - whether it was a love ballad or rock 'n roll, play it during the reception for them.
- Place a flower in the chair that they would be sitting in at the wedding or lean a chair up against the table at the reception, keeping a spot open for them.
- If your loved one passed away due to cancer or disease give your guests the option of donating money to a specific charity either at the wedding or through your registry in their memory.
There is no easy way to get through a wedding without your dad there to walk you down the aisle or your best friend to stand next to you. But there are a lot of creative ways to bring the spirit of those important to you into the wedding day.
How did you honor those who weren't able to be with you on your big day?