How Do I Love Thee… Let Me Count The Ways (To Have the Money Talk)

Posted by Azure on July 1st, 2009
Special feature by Dr. Taffy Wagner, creator of Money Talk Before The Commitment Walk and Debt Stops At The Altar

Let’s have some fun this month and give you some ideas when it comes to romance and finance: Phase 1

I Love Thee Enough To: •Be honest about my finances and not hide them from you.
Build your marriage on a solid financial foundation.

Talk now for savings later

•Know that when I tell you about my finances, you will not leave me. •Have the discussion about who should manage our household finances. •Refuse to let the fear of talking openly about money turn our marriage into divorce statistic.

Did you make it through the Phase 1 of How Do I Love Thee? Let’s Go to Phase 2! Phase 2

I Love Thee Enough To: •Not spend because of my emotions. •Be willing to sit down and talk about our financial issues and not ignore them. •Admit if I am a shopper or a saver up front so you know who I am. •Commit fully to the vows that we are about to take: For better, or worse; for richer or poorer.

Brides, this is only the beginning of your money talk. Begin this talk now – don’t have hidden debt revealed when you return from the honeymoon. If your groom is your best friend, then you should be able to talk about everything. If this is true, then the money talk will not be a roadblock in your marriage, but a minor obstacle along your path.

It’s important to note that the money talk is an ongoing conversation, not a one-time discussion. Discuss whether you will have a joint account or separate accounts, who is going to manage the money, and much more.

If you can talk about money and solve financial issues, there is not anything you will not be able to handle in your marriage. As a matter of fact, I commend those of you who begin the difficult parts of the money talk now. I’m not talking about discussing how much the florist or the caterer will cost. I’m talking about, “Honey, what are the outstanding bills that you are bringing into the relationship?” What steps would you add to “How Do I Love Thee… Let Me Count The Ways?” Let us know in the comments!
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