Special to OneWed Kara Horner of TheManRegistry.com
It’s true that weddings are one of the most wonderful, beautiful occasions in a person’s life, but it’s also true that they can be incredibly stressful for those planning them. But knowing what to expect ahead of time can help you deal with the inevitable hiccups that occur along the way.
Wedding Truth #1 Things will go wrong on your wedding day. But there’s no reason to have a nervous breakdown because of it. Most likely, no one but you and your future spouse will know about it. And even if a more major thing happens to go awry, don’t let it ruin your day. While of course you’ll do everything in your power to ensure that everything goes smoothly on your big day, if something doesn’t happen exactly according to plan, remember what matters most: At the end of the day, you and your fiancé(e) will be married. No one will remember that the wedding flowers arrived wilted or that the butter cream frosting on your cake didn’t perfectly match your wedding colors.
Wedding Truth #2 Not everyone will be happy with the choices you make. Whether you want to wear a simple, yet elegant wedding dress and your maid of honor thinks it’s too plain, or you want the groomsmen to wear Chuck Taylors with their suits and your mom thinks it’s tacky, you can’t make everyone happy. And you shouldn’t. It’s your wedding day after all. The only people that need to be happy about all of the details are you and your future spouse. While you can take everyone else’s opinions into consideration, it should ultimately be your decision.
Wedding Truth #3 Too many people will offer to help with the wedding plans. Instead of seeing this as an insult (Why would they think I need help choosing the menu? Do they think I have bad taste?), consider that they know how many details you have to arrange and simply want to offer you a hand and help you make your wedding day as beautiful as possible. That said, with so many offers to help, you may need to draw the line somewhere. Be gracious, but honest: “It’s so sweet of you to offer, but so-and-so is helping me choose the band and I think we’ve made our selection.”
Wedding Truth #4 Not everyone understands basic wedding etiquette or will get along. You may think that everyone you’ll invite to your wedding will act appropriately, dress well and arrive on time. But someone will still probably show up 30 minutes after the ceremony has begun, wearing jeans or shorts, and with a sick child, or will end up fighting with an ex in front of everyone at the reception. Don’t sweat it or let it “ruin” your day. Keep your eye on the big picture and simply let it go.
Any other wedding truths brides should know before tying the knot? We'd love to hear from newlyweds, bloggers and wedding pros!