Special to OneWed by Kara Horner of TheManRegistry.com
Let’s face it—big, extravagant, Kardashian-style weddings aren’t for everyone. And that’s OK. Many brides and grooms starting to feel overwhelmed with the minutia of wedding planning may wonder if eloping is the answer. Whether the budget is an issue or you and your fiancé simply want a very intimate wedding with just the two of you, eloping may be the way to go. But before you forgo a more traditional wedding, ask yourself a few questions to determine if an elopement is right for you.
Are you OK with keeping your wedding to just the two of you? Ask yourself if you can imagine getting married without your parents, other close family or friends by your side. If all that matters to you is having your future spouse by your side, eloping could be the answer.
Do you want a fairly simple wedding? Eloping enables you to skip hunting for bridesmaids’ dresses, nailing down venues and caterers, finding DJs and florists, and so on. Include only the details you can’t live without, whether it’s a great wedding dress or dessert at your favorite restaurant to celebrate afterward.
Would scraping up enough money to plan a traditional wedding require you to wait years to tie the knot? Consider keeping it super simple and heading to the courthouse to be married, or traveling to your favorite destination where the two of you can tie the knot and possibly even stay a few extra days for a honeymoon or mini-moon.
Want the flexibility of being able to get married in 2 weeks or tomorrow? More traditional weddings likely require many arrangements to be made at least a few months in advance. Eloping allows you to be much more spontaneous.
Prefer to have a more relaxing and stress-free wedding? Instead of worrying about making every single detail perfect, and spending months dutifully crossing off items on a seemingly endless to-do list, eloping allows you to focus on the marriage itself, rather than the experience entertaining guests for an entire day or weekend.
If you decide that elopement is the way to go, keep in mind that although it may be the perfect solution for you and your future spouse, you may end up hurting some people’s feelings (such as close family and friends) in the process. They may have always dreamed of attending or being part of your wedding. If that doesn’t bother you, that’s fine—after all, it’s your wedding and not theirs. But if you want to smooth things over after you return from your elopement, consider throwing a small, low-key party to celebrate your marriage with family and friends, so they can feel a bit more involved in this milestone in your life.