Queerly Wed: Which Traditions Will You Follow?
Special to OneWed by Stacy Jacobs of Queerly Wed Despite the fact that I have forgotten most of the Hebrew I ever learned, I still identify as a “Cultural Jew.” These days, neither Melissa nor I are tied to one faith and at first thought many of the typical wedding traditions would have to be thrown out the window for us. However, we decided that we should go ahead and pick the rituals that we felt would signify our relationship with each other and our families. The...
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Queerly Wed: When Religious Family Members Object
Special to OneWed by Melissa Johns of QueerlyWed The vast majority of people who object to same-sex relationships and marriage do so on religious grounds. Coming out to such people can be very difficult, depending on how close you are to them and how much you seek their approval. For the most part, I’ve been lucky because even though most of my family is very religious, I have been given full support of my choice to marry my same-sex partner. I do have religious family members...
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Queerly Wed: What You Should Know about Same-Sex Wedding Attire
Special to OneWed from Melissa Johns of Queerly Wed Wedding ceremonies have seen some changes over the past 30 years. Of course, some couples choose to have a completely traditional ceremony, too! What hasn’t seen a lot of change is the basic wedding attire. The groom wears a tux and the bride wears a dress. This is the image we are all raised with. When it comes to same-sex weddings, it is no surprise that most everyone wants to know “what are you wearing?” Of course this is...
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Special from Queerly Wed: Asking Your Family for Help
Special to OneWed by Stacy Jacobs of Queerly Wed. Same-sex couples face a lot of roadblocks when it comes to getting married. One of the largest ones includes our very own families. Your family may be Gung-Ho about your upcoming nuptials, but they can still act gun shy when it comes down to helping you plan for the big day. This may be because some of the traditional family roles (such as the bride's parents pays for the wedding) aren’t as relevant. What do you do exactly about...
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Special from Queerly Wed: Is it Legal?
Special to OneWed by Melissa Johns of Queerly Wed One of the most common questions I am asked by straight people when they hear I’m getting married is, “Is it legal?” I know that they don’t ask with malicious intent. However, it stings each time it’s asked and I will tell you why. Love is not illegal. Gays can love all they want and call themselves committed in their relationship for however long they want to. Many of us decide to make that solemn vow of love and monogamy...
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Photo and VideoAsk the Wedding Maven: Deciding Which Wedding Traditions to Follow
In this week's column the Wedding Maven answers a question about wedding traditions, and how to decide which ones are important. If you need wedding advice we have two ways for you to get your questions answered. Our Ask the Experts panel answers all your questions about wedding logistics and decisions at asktheexperts@onewed.com The Wedding Maven answers your questions about wedding etiquette, traditions, and relationships at weddingmaven@onewed.com
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Queerly Wed’s Advice for Attending a Gay Wedding
Special to OneWed by Melissa Johns of QueerlyWed If you’ve been invited to a gay or lesbian wedding, the couple considers you a welcome and important guest on their big day. However, not everyone who is invited to a same-sex wedding is comfortable with the idea. As with any wedding, you should only attend if you can do so respectfully. If you’ve been invited to s same-sex wedding and have some hesitations, you may want to give some thought to these topics: • Are you...
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How You Can Support Marriage Rights for Everyone
Special to OneWed by Melissa Johns of QueerlyWed This October, Equality Across America will hold the National Equality March in Washington D.C.. This march is aimed at ensuring equal rights, including equal marriage rights, for all people. Melissa Johns, co-owner of Queerly Wed, a wedding planning website for gay couples, explains here why she’ll be going to the event, and why you should do so as well. I am pretty lucky. I live in a major urban area in a state that prohibits...
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Making Sure Your Wedding Readings Fit Your Beliefs
Happy Monday! I went to a beautiful wedding this weekend, as the “plus one” of a friend from out of town. A difficult issue for many brides and grooms is how to celebrate their own wedding, without ignoring the fact that in most of the country their gay friends cannot get married. Most people do not want to turn their wedding into a political statement, nor should they. I thought his couple handled the issue beautifully by including this as one of their four wedding readings....
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Real Wedding Challenges: The Importance of Declaring Your Love
We have two great loves here at the Savvy Scoop: interesting stories and finding inspiration to help you make your wedding special. Our monthly feature Real Wedding Challenges combines both of these loves. On the last Friday of every month we introduce you to a real married couple who worked through a challenge in planning their wedding. Since these couples are no longer in the midst of planning a wedding, we think you’ll find their solutions and perspectives refreshing. To read the...

