Before Michele Schwartz of The Modern Jewish Wedding starts sharing her wisdom with OneWed on the reg, we thought it'd be fun to learn a little bit more about our fabulous Next Big Bridal Blogger winner! Let's get to it, shall we?!
What do you love most about weddings? It’s hard to pick just one thing. But I love to see the faces and reactions of the bride and groom (and their loved ones). Nothing beats a front row seat to that once in a lifetime moment where the bride and groom see each other for the first time (as their parents look on with pride and love). In these cases, it’s true… “A picture is worth 1000 words!”
What do you like least about weddings? The pressure! I wish when planning, brides could forget the pressure to have “the best wedding ever,” and instead, create the most spectacular wedding for their tastes, loves and budget! It’s hard to make choices which consistently honor you as a person, and you and your groom as a couple, while still keeping in mind that you’re throwing a party to entertain your guests.
What's the best piece of advice you can offer to brides and grooms-to-be? Don’t forget to plan for the wedding ceremony too. It isn’t all about the party! The wedding ceremony should be personalized and planned with the same care as every other detail of the wedding.
If you could re-do your wedding, what would you change? The one thing I would do differently is take the formal pictures first (even though it would mean sacrificing my “big entrance”). I missed out on my entire cocktail hour and felt impatient taking all the posed photos. If we had done them first, I would have been much more relaxed—and would have been able to enjoy my cocktail hour & get a first look at the reception room.
Share a few tactics & tricks to help interfaith couples deal with dissension from their families: My first piece of advice is to honor the dissension coming from family members by listening to their concerns. Everyone wants to feel heard. Then, if there are ways you can include a piece of tradition from each culture, which has meaning to you as a couple—Do it! If not, DON’T. Ultimately, it is your wedding and you don’t get a re-do. So make it your own and only include religious or cultural elements that make sense for you.
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Best budget-saving trick you have up your sleeve? Elope. Really, the best way to keep your wedding budget in line is to keep your guest list small. You have to make priorities. If you want to invite more people, then you can cut in other areas (by DIYing your centerpieces and decor, or having limited bar options). If the food and bar are your top priorities, then be ready to scale back the guest list.
And finally... tell us why you’re pumped to write for OneWed! Why wouldn’t I be excited to write for OneWed?! I’m thrilled to take the knowledge I have as a wedding planner and a Jewish educator and bring it to a wider audience. I think all Jewish weddings are beautiful, from the very traditional and Orthodox, to the ultra offbeat and nondenominational. I think every couple can find inspiration from The Modern Jewish Wedding, and I’m happy I get to share that with the OneWed family!