It’s never too early to start making out your guest list – thinking about people now keeps you from realizing you forgot to invite your little sister a week after the invitations go out.
The first thing to do, of course, is to settle on a number with your groom. Take a hard look at your budget and work from there. Once you have your number, write down your non-negotiables – people you MUST have at your wedding – and then move from there to your A list.
Once you and your groom are set on those, you will probably each want to allot some guest slots to your parents; after all, they’re proud of you.
When it comes to cutting people from your guest list – or standing firm if your parents want more people than you’ve offered them – your budget is your shield and your best friend. Almost everyone will understand that you have to keep to a set number of guests because of your budget (even if the real reason is that you’ve always wanted a small, intimate wedding). If they don’t understand, let them know they’re welcome to kick in.
This month’s stress-buster: Take a night to go through your A list with your groom. When either of you has a guest the other hasn’t met, tell your absolute favorite story about that person. Or tell your fiancé the one thing that’s sure to make guest in question laugh. It’s a great way to help each other feel comfortable and start blending your friends.