Hi lovely readers! Chandra from Oh Lovely Day here again. So I was a little hesitant to write on this topic, because I know people are really attached to tossing the bouquet. And it can make for some fun photos. Ok, my dears, here it goes. DITCH the bouquet toss! Here’s why:
First of all, you probably paid at least $150 (or more!) for that bouquet and it is gorgeous. Would you just toss money around like that? Of course not. Secondly, and more importantly, it is humiliating. Not for you, the bride, but for the single ladies that are shoved and corralled on the dance floor, stared and pointed at, and probably forced to smile while they are told they could be “the next lucky one to get married” if they catch that bouquet. One problem, not everyone wants to get married and it can be insulting to assume they do. An even bigger problem, there are girls out there who do and maybe they’ve been dating someone for-like-ever who hasn’t yet proposed. They don’t need to be reminded that they are still single. They know. And they don’t need to have a bouquet thrown at them as a reminder to their boyfriend that they are ready to get married (hint hint) at yet another friend’s wedding.
That was totally me, by the way. I had dated my now husband off and on since high school, and we were the last of all of my friends to get married. If I had to smile through one more bouquet toss I was going to toss it right back. And for the few single ladies that do want to participate, it brings out a very ugly side of you. Like a wrestle-on-the-floor-for-that-bouquet side. For shame, ladies!
So what did I do at my own wedding when I did get married? Well, I’ll tell you what I didn’t do…I did not toss my bouquet! And my single girls were very appreciative.
If you really have an attachment to the bouquet toss because of some vision you’ve had since you were a little girl, change it up. If you have kids at your wedding let all the little girls gather up to try to catch the bride’s bouquet. Or just toss it to all the guests as you do your reception exit. Otherwise I think this is a tradition that we should definitely DITCH. There are tons of other fun wedding photos to be had.
So I ask you, what do you think of the bouquet toss? Hitch or Ditch? Love or Hate? Live or let die? I’d love to hear what you think!
Up next, the garter toss: I think you know where this one’s headed…