As if picking your bridal party wasn’t hard enough, now you have to delegate tasks to your maid/matron of honor (MOH) and bridesmaids. Besides showing up to the ceremony and reception there are no other mandatory bridal party duties; you can’t force someone to plan you bridal shower after all! Brides, remember your MOH and bridesmaids are volunteering for the job. They are not your servants to boss around. Take into consideration how much time your MOH and bridesmaids have to give and the financial burden you are placing on them. However, most of your bridal party will be happy to help because they care about you and want your wedding day to go smoothly.
What’s a Maid/Matron of Honor to do?
Help with wedding planning
The MOH or bridesmaids will often go with the bride as she makes reception arrangements. They can offer style advice when picking a wedding venue, deciding upon flowers and decorations, registering, addressing and mailing invitations, and of course, while wedding dress shopping.
Planning the parties
The bridal shower and bachelorette party are two of the MOH and bridesmaids’ most important roles. The MOH is also expected to think up a few bridal shower games.
Organizing the bridesmaids
Many brides choose to forgo the large wedding party, but should the bride need help communicating with her many bridesmaids, it is the MOH’s job! The MOH can help her bride by organizing and keeping track of bridesmaid dress fittings and alterations. During the wedding she can keep everyone organized and on time for the ceremony, photos, and reception.
During the wedding the MOH has a couple of clearly defined duties...
- Help the bride get dressed before the ceremony
- Act as a messenger between the groom and bride before the ceremony
- Carry the groom’s ring
- Hold the bride’s bouquet during the ceremony
- Make a toast during the reception
- Arrange the bride’s wedding dress train and veil throughout the day/night.
- Help the bride change clothes if needed or visit the bathroom!
How about those bridesmaids?
The number one job of a bridesmaid is to be there for the bride practically and emotionally. Be her friend, offer to help when able, and remember the whole process is supposed to be fun! Some brides include the bridal party in every decision, from dress shopping to registering, and others are less inclusive.
Typical bridesmaid duties are...
- Help the MOH plan the bridal shower and bachelorette party
- Pre-ceremony primping with the bride
- Small random tasks as needed during the reception
- Showing up on time for the ceremony, photos, and reception