Guest Post By: Robert Everett
1. Reaching Financial Stability
Arguments over finances often ruin relationships and ultimately marriages, but it doesn't have to be that way. As you make your decision to walk down the aisle, it is important that you and your future spouse work out a plan to deal with your finances. Unless you have been living together for a while, you might not appreciate just how much your life will change. Once you will realize how complicated it can be to spend money in a way that meets both of your needs. This does not even take into consideration how things will change after you have children. Working out a budget and figuring out how you're going to save and invest money in the long term can go a long way towards maintaining a happy marriage.
2. Realizing That Fights Don't Mark the End
At the beginning of a relationship, one of the most stressful events is the first major fight. Whether it is a big or small event, it often leads questions like, “Can we overcome this?” Indeed, during the first few weeks and months, couples often feel a sense of paranoia that the end is near. As the relationship continues, arguments remain inevitable and can even be a healthy part of the process. One of the key marriage tips is to communicate honestly and take other steps to keep the marriage going whenever you have a disagreement. Once the couple reaches the stage in which they can quarrel and then put their differences aside, it could be a sign that you are ready to take the relationship to the next level.
3. Feeling Comfortable Around His/Her Friends and the Future In-Laws
At the beginning of a relationship, after it becomes clear that it has the potential to become something more serious, you and your partner begin introducing each other to friends and family. This is a big step because family relationships and the ability to get along with your friends is crucial for the long-term viability of your relationship. After all, if your partner isn't able to get along with your friends or parents, it is impossible to enjoy family get-togethers or go bring him/her along on camping trips or to the pubs on a Friday night. It can take some time before your friends and family get used to your partner, but if their relationship never reaches a certain comfort level, don't plan a wedding quite yet.
4. Accepting Your Role as a Step-Parent
Let's face it: when you marry somebody who has children, you must accept that the children come with the package. Being a stepmom or stepfather is not always easy, but having a good relationship with your future spouse's children is absolutely essential. If the children are relatively young, you must recognize that having a new parent in their lives can be confusing and stressful. One important strategy is allowing your future spouse to determine your role in terms of discipline and setting the house rules. You also should not insist on them referring to you as “mom” or “dad” if they feel uncomfortable with this. Finally, the key to a success in dealing with your future spouse's children is understanding that you do not have to love them (or vice versa) in the same way that you might love your biological children as this feeling should never be forced. If you can accept this, you are ready to plan that wedding.
5. Developing a Hobby Together
When thinking about love and marriage, it is important to keep in mind that if you want to keep your relationship strong, you will need to have interests that go beyond desire and attraction. Picking up a hobby that you both enjoy will make your relationship even stronger. After all, if only one of you is choosing an activity such as, for example, cycling and the other isn't, it can drive a wedge in the marriage as one makes a circle of friends while the other stays at home. The best way to do this is to sign up for fun and interesting workshops together in order to try new things or take part in various social clubs where you can expand your group of friends together.
Robert Everett: I am an independent writer, blogger, and analyst at EssayVikings, currently based in Chicago, solving students’ career and university problems, and having an interest in marketing and business.
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