Published Sep 1, 2010
Special to OneWed by Gemological Institute of America (GIA)
When your guy gets down on one knee and pops the question, you know what you want to see inside that little box. But does he?
When it comes to engagement rings
, even the most well-intentioned soon-to-be fiancé can use a little help. That’s where you come in— read on for 5 easy tips to getting the diamond you’ve always dreamed of.
1. He’ll do his homework—and so should you.
What you really need to know about diamonds can be boiled down to the 4Cs: carat, color, clarity, and cut. The 4Cs were developed by the Gemology Institute of America (GIA) to grade diamonds by a universal standard. Here’s a quick primer:
• Diamond Carat
: the weight, with one carat weighing 0.2 grams
• Diamond Color
: how close to colorless, or “white”, the diamond is
• Diamond Clarity
: how few birthmarks—called inclusions and blemishes—a diamond has
• Diamond Cut
: how much brightness (light reflection), fire (colors of the spectrum), and scintillation (sparkle) the diamond has; cut also refers to the shape of the diamond (round
Buying a diamond with a GIA grading report on the 4Cs will give him confidence that he’s getting exactly what he’s paying for. It will also give you purchasing power if years down the road you decide to get an upgrade.
2. Drop subtle hints.
Dropping hints can go a long way—you’ll get what you want, and he’ll get the satisfaction of knowing what you like without having to flat out ask. Here are a few tried and true methods:
• Comment on elements of other rings that you like, ie, “Wow, I loved Melissa’s pear-shaped diamond and how it’s so sparkly and white—way better than a bigger one that’s not as pretty.”
• Let him “discover” things— leave your computer or a magazine opened to a page with the diamond of your dreams.
3. Get your girls to help.
Your soon-to-be-hubby will undoubtedly talk to female family members and girlfriends about what you like—so make sure they’re in the know.
4. Visit a jewelry store together.
Going to a jeweler “just to look” can often do the trick. Almost 70% of today's brides are involved in the ring selection process! Your ideal jeweler is a GIA-trained Graduate Gemologist, but any knowledgeable jeweler should be able to explain the 4Cs and guide you through your options.
5. …and when all else fails, just tell him.
When hints and casual jewelry store visits don’t work, just explain exactly what you want. You’ll make that once-in-a-lifetime purchase less stressful for him, and guarantee a once-in-a-lifetime moment for both of you!
For more information about diamond buying, the 4Cs, and grading reports, visit www.gia4cs.gia.edu.