Miss to Mrs or Ms. For Life?

By Chandra Fredrick, Published Feb 23, 2012

Did you hear that this week France is doing away with the title Mademoiselle, which is our equivalent of Miss?  All women will now be addressed as Madame.

It got me thinking about the use of titles like Miss, Mrs., Ms., and Mr.  in the U.S.  Last week I wrote about mangagement rings and some of the comments made me stop and think.  I was approaching it from the perspective of women trying to manage their men by making them wear engagement rings, which was my impression of the trend.  The comments made me stop and think about how an argument could be made (and several comments did just that) that men have been doing that to women for ages.   I’m not making that argument necessarily, but I can see their point. 

Now I consider myself a feminist – I think any person (not just woman) who believes in equal rights and opportunities for women is a feminist.  And meeting Gloria Steinham is up there as one of the coolest experiences I’ve had to date.  But I will say that I didn’t feel managed by being asked to wear an engagement ring, and I don’t care if I’m addressed as Miss, Mrs., or Ms.  I changed my name when I got married (except in my law practice where I still go by my maiden name because it is how people in that profession know me).   I was proud to be a single girl when I was single, and am proud to be a married one now.  But I would like to hear your opinions. 

What do you think of the change from Mademoiselle to Madam?  Do you have a preference in how you’re addressed?  Do you think it is fair that all men are addressed as Mr., whether married or single, while women have always been differentiated based on their marital status?   Chime in!

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