Dear Wedding Maven, I’m getting married next year at my parents’ house. I was thinking about having a potluck reception and asking people to contribute a dish instead of hiring a caterer. It seems friendly and old-fashioned to me (and it would save me money), but I’m not ...

Quick, what will be your guests’ first impression of your wedding? Here’s a hint, it will happen long before they get to the ceremony, see the dress, or eat the cake. Your wedding invitation (or save the date card) is your guests’ introduction to your wedding. It tells them ...

Dear Wedding Maven, My fiancé and I have both been married before, and currently live together. We would prefer that our guests refrain from giving us gifts. We want our friends to come celebrate with us, but not feel required to spend money and effort on gift-giving. Since wedding gifts ...

Dear Wedding Maven, For immigration reasons, my fiancé and I had a civil ceremony last year. Because our church has certain requirements before performing a wedding, we couldn’t do our church ceremony at the same time. We do not consider ourselves married. Our actual wedding, a religious wedding ceremony ...

Dear Wedding Maven, My brother is getting married. I have already agreed to be a bridesmaid in the wedding. But, my husband and I just found out that I will be about 8 months pregnant then. Should I drop out? I’m puzzled about how I would order a dress ...

A few weeks ago I answered a question from someone who wanted to know how to get out of a contract with a wedding photographer. This week, I received a similar question from the owner of a banquet facility. Dear Wedding Maven, I own a banquet facility and my contract ...

In this week’s column, the Wedding Maven answers a question about family members who are less than kind. Dear Wedding Maven, I am getting married in October for the second time, and I remember what my family did days before my first wedding. My mother and sister are a ...

In this week’s column, the wedding maven deals with confusion over wedding dress codes. Dear Wedding Maven, I recently got a wedding invitation from a friend who is getting married at his parents’ house. The invitation said a cocktail reception would follow the ceremony. So, I assumed I’d ...

In this week’s column, Wedding Maven Marta Segal Block answers a question about wedding contracts. Dear Wedding Maven, My friend and his fiancee signed a contract with a photographer for their wedding in summer 2010. They realize now that they can’t afford it, but the photographer won’t ...

In this week’s column, Wedding Maven Marta Segal Block answers a question about gift giving. Do you have a question about wedding day manners, ethics, or traditions? Write the Wedding Maven at onewedmaven@gmail.com Dear Wedding Maven, A friend of mine is getting married soon. I saw a ...

Hi there, Following my column a few weeks ago about dress codes for wedding guests, I got this very short email: Can a guest wear white to a wedding? First, let me just say how much I love the succinct nature of this question. I’d love to be just ...

In this week’s column, Wedding Maven Marta Segal Block offers some cold, hard truth about who holds the purse strings. Dear Wedding Maven, I recently got engaged. My parents have offered to pay for my wedding, which I’m very grateful for. However, I’m a little concerned about ...

If your idea of a Jewish wedding is a man singing “Tradition” and dancing with a bottle on his head, you may have watched “Fiddler on the Roof” a few too many times. In many ways, modern Jewish weddings are not all that different from any other ceremony. If you ...

When my friends “Clifford” and “Odile” got married, they were both in grad school and thus both pretty money-conscious. They wanted small and they wanted simple. Odile’s mom? Not so much the small and simple type. She offered to kick in money to pay for a chocolate fountain at ...

It happens to a lot of brides: You get engaged, and your friends say you’re pulling away. Or maybe they even accused you of dropping your friends when you started getting serious with your fiancé. Whoa, since you’ve started dating him? Adding a serious relationship to a friendship ...

As you may have noticed, the 2008 elections caused flurries in the news for races that were a little further down the ballot than usual: Arizona, California, and Florida all passed ballot measures banning same-sex marriage. (Arkansas also passed a measure that banned any single person from adopting a child ...

OK, so we’ve all had that friend in elementary school or junior high school where you like each other so much that you start to look alike, right? You do your hair the same and you wear the same kinds of clothes and half the stuff you do the ...

It’s amazing how many of my friends started lamenting freedom of choice once they got engaged. Almost everyone felt like she got judged by half the people she knew if she kept her own name, and judged by the other half if she didn’t. And if she hyphenated ...

I’m not especially religious. I wouldn’t say I’m an atheist. Or even an agnostic, really. I guess I’m one of the kazillion people who vaguely describe themselves as “not religious, but spiritual,” even though I suspect a lot of people get annoyed when I do. I ...

About every third time I reach for a mug, I grab the one from Heather and David’s wedding. And, yes, I do often take a moment to think about how much fun I had at the wedding and what a good couple they are. So their crafty plan worked ...